Children with complex medical conditions often require extensive care, which might be around the clock in some cases. This and other life circumstances can cause strain on a marriage. When parents of a medically complex child divorce, there are some special considerations that have to be taken into account.
One of the most important things to remember is that you have to customize the parenting plan to your child’s needs. What works for someone else might not work for your situation.
Here are two important questions to ask:
Who’s the primary caregiver for the child?
One parent has likely taken on the bulk of caregiving duties. The other parent will have to learn how to care for the child if they’re going to have parenting time with the child without anyone else there. Of course, hiring a caregiver is also a possibility. But, the terms of who can care for the child should be in the parenting plan.
How can transportation and medical needs be handled?
Sometimes, children who are medically complex will use a wheelchair or need specialized transportation. It’s probably unrealistic to think that both parents will have a vehicle that meets those needs. Because of this, plans to share a vehicle for the child might be in order.
The same is true for medical equipment. In fact, some parents who have a medically complex child might use the “bird’s nest” parenting style where the parents rotate in and out of one home while the child stays put. That can make it easier to manage
Doing what’s best for the child is imperative during the divorce. The parenting plan for a medically complex child likely won’t look the same as other plans. It’s imperative that the plan is set for what the children need now because the parenting plan can be modified in the future if necessary.